– Authored by Anmol & Melody
31st Dec 2019
Today is not only the last day of the year, but it’s also my birthday. Right now I’m sitting here in this beautiful resort in Uganda, trying to reflect on this incredible year that I have had. I think a great way to do that, would be to share the stories of 12 unique strangers who have made the biggest impact on both Melody and me over the last 12 months. These stories are bound to inspire you, just like how they inspired us.
But before we start, just a quick disclaimer, we are trying to keep this post anonymous. These are positive stories, but they are never the less private stories. So we will try our best to not reveal any personal information that can help identify the said people. If you are one of these awesome people and would like us to include your name/photo/social media link, please let Melody or me know.
That being said, let’s start:
(These 12 stories cover all these countries)
To be honest, I did not want to write about this topic at the beginning because I didn’t know how to pick just a few days out of all the amazing days in the last decade of my life. And I thought even if I manage to pick those days out, I wouldn’t be able to do them justice by just writing a few sentences about them. Well, my concern is still legit, but I convinced myself to do it regardless. The truth is, something imperfect is better than the perfect thing that never exists. So here it is, the imperfect list of the best days of my decade.
My Dear Daughter/Son,
I don’t know how long I still need to wait to meet you but I know that I am ready and when we do meet, I will be the happiest person in the world!
(Photo by Natalya Zaritskaya on Unsplash)
1. As I imagine who you would be, I feel the need to start with imagining what you would look like. And I know that Vanity is not the first thing that I should start with, but to picture you, is to picture a beautiful child and a beautiful person! After all, there has to be some kind of advantage of having two beautiful parents, right? Although I do want you to understand, that good looks are an advantage but it does not give you the right to feel superior. And please also do not take it for granted. Practice self-care but do not mistake it with surface-level vanity. I’m sure you will grow to understand the difference.
I was recently asked:
“What are the major pillars of a good communicator?”
I gave it a good thought, and here is my answer.
It is now the 2nd month of 2019. If you have not yet taken actions to improve yourself and your life yet, please do start now. And remember, it’s better late than never.
To have a wonderful and fulfilling year ahead, you need to take control of your life instead of just letting things happen to you. I am talking about living an intentional life, a life with purpose and meaning, a life full of joy and achievements – a life you designed.
One of the biggest questions when it comes to habit formation is how to be consistent.
A very good strategy is the “high-bar-low-bar” hack that I first learned from the YouTube Channel Improvement Pill.
The Automaticity Line
Firstly, I need to introduce a new concept. Studies show that every routine has what is called an Automaticity Line, a point where if we repeat a routine enough times, it becomes as automatic as it can get. At this point, our routine is now a habit which means very little thought is put into it.
Let’s just get into it. When you do goal setting, I want you to avoid these common pitfalls. I know some of them might sound shocking, but just keep an open mind, hear me out, and see if it makes sense to you.
Do not share our goals.
How do we know if we are successful if we don’t even know what success looks like for us? How do we know if you we reached our goals if you don’t even have a goal clearly defined?
Okay. Assuming that you already know how important goal-setting is, the next question is how do we set goals exactly?
One effective method is called SMARTER system. It is an acronym for Specific, Measurable, Actionable, Relevant, Time-Bound, Evaluate, and Reward.
S – Specific
Be as specific as we can. For example, set goals such as “I will write a 50,000-word book” instead of “I want to be rich.”
(Photo by Charles 🇵🇭 on Unsplash)
M – Measurable
Instead of “to lose weight”, say that “to lose 1 pound every week” or something like that so that it is measurable.
For the majority years of my life, I never set goals. But ever since I learned how to do it, my life changed completely. There are a few reasons why goals setting is so powerful:
As Christmas and New Year approach, it is the perfect time for us to review our 2018 and plan for 2019!
Planning for future can be a daunting task if we don’t already know who we really are and what we really want. That is what we are going to tackle in this blog through a process called “self-discovery”.
It is through self-discovery that we learn to understand our thoughts, desires, motivation, and purpose in life. Without that understanding, it will be like trying to find a restaurant in Detroit while holding a map of New York City. We will only end up getting lost no matter how fast we walk. It’s also like trying so hard to climb to the top of a ladder only to find out that the ladder is leaning against the wrong wall the whole time.